Because I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and, doggonit, people like me!

by SomeGirl on February 4, 2010 · 6 comments

So, I woke up with 2 God whispered thoughts this morning… I was having a bad dream about someone and was woken up with the thought, “She’s good enough… She’s nice… Be kind to her.” Then the second thought was, “Get up.” (more on that God whispered thought here). So, both got me thinking and now today is a 2 post day… uh, morning… there may be one more this evening that I’ve been working on in my head for days… we’ll see. Anyway, it got me thinking about the idea of being “good enough.” I admit I’ve never wanted to be good enough. I’ve wanted to be the best… to be perfect. When I started thinking about this post I thought about starting it with, “Hi. I’m Michelle and I’m a perfectionist.” But, I don’t want to be a perfectionist anymore. So, now I’m going to claim that I’m a “recovering perfectionist.” A story the other day knock some sense into my head (and heart). I heard of a girl who had a perfect father… perfect! He did everything right, was always there for her, made her feel special, did all that any parent would hope to do and did it ALL well. He was perfect… period. But, the girl grew up and looked for a man to be just as good to her as her father had been and struggled with the fact that no man could ever meet up to her expectations. She has struggled greatly with that going from relationship to relationship. This was in contrast to a friend who’s father had abandoned her and mother was very abusive. Both had struggles of equal greatness. So, I’ve always known I didn’t want to be a bad parent, but I’ve secretly always wanted to be a perfect parent… now I realize that both can be damaging… so, now I’ve resolved to be a “good enough” parent. One whose kind and loving, but makes mistakes and is ok with it, because I’m not perfect, but I’m good enough. Hopefully I’ll be able to pass on to my children a grace that allows them to see those who love them in the loving, accepting light of “good enough.” Not wanting others to meet up to the harsh expectations of perfectionism… but loving them with their mistakes. Now, if I can just guard myself from trying to be perfect at being good-enough! ;)

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{ 6 comments }

Heidi

I think your perfect….Perfectly Michelle!! Blessings!

Some Girl

Thanks, Heidi! You’re a sweet friend!

Alana Solodow

Great reading! I can relate – I try too hard to be perfect, and in doing so, I make more mistakes than when I’m relaxed about things.

Some Girl

Thanks, Alana! That’s great insight, btw.

OM

Hey, I got nudged out of bed this morning. As I gave in and got up to head into the office to check email, Nicholas came out sobbing from bad dream. We had a nice quiet time together before they officially got up. Just like you. I love how Perfect Timing works! ;)

Some Girl

LOVE it!

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