All I Really Needed to Know I Learned on SNL (in the late 80s early 90s)

by SomeGirl on February 17, 2010 · 6 comments

I started to title this post Stop “Should-ing” All Over Yourself. Then I realized that’s another Stuart Smalley line and I’ve already quoted him in the title of another post, which led me to think of all the things I’ve learned from SNL that have been helpful in life… let’s see:

  • How to compliment someone: “You Look Marvelous, Darling!”
  • What to do if your clothes don’t fit well: “Belt it and cinch it!”
  • The best sorority to pledge: “Delta, Delta, Delta!”
  • What to ask for at a nice restaurant: “Fresh A Pepper”
  • How to handle an emotional situation: “I’m feeling a little verklempt. Talk amongst yourselves.”
  • What to say when expressing your thoughts that come off as way too deep: “Deep thoughts by Jack Handy”
  • Where bad thoughts come from: “Could it be… SATAN!”
  • What to say to that mean inner voice that taunts you: “You’re good enough, you’re smart enough, and doggonit people like you.”

And last, but not least…

  • How to live with less guilt: “Stop should-ing all over yourself!”

When I was in college my best friend and I would have lots of long Stuart-Smalley-like talks and we continually reminded each other to stop “should-ing”…. I should do this. I should do that. So, I finally decided to take the word “should” out of my vocabulary. “Should” brings shame. It’s a strong suggestion with judgment attached. Instead I prefer to use “could.” For example: Instead of saying, “I really should go do the laundry right now,” I acknowledge that I “could” go do the laundry or I “could not” go do the laundry. There’s no judgment on whether or not I do it, just choices to make. If I do the laundry I’ll have clean clothes… if I don’t, I won’t. But don’t get me wrong… there are things I MUST do (black and white issues), but I’ve come to see that there are many more gray areas in life and much more room for grace, lots of things I Could or Could Not do… I don’t have to live with the guilt and shame of “should-ing” myself, but I do have to live with the consequences (both good and bad). So, if you haven’t already… Stop should-ing all over yourself! Look in the mirror and repeat after me:  I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and Doggonit, people like me! (I loved SNL back in the day!)

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That’s for you, Cali! :)

And now I really MUST go do laundry if I want clean clothes for tomorrow.

{ 6 comments }

OM

Love it! I think I’ll take that word out of my vocabulary too. You might need to keep reminding me to stop should-ing though! :)

Some Girl

We’ll keep each other in check… in a nice, encouraging way. :) Did you see my 3rd to last twitter post?

Some Girl

Oh, guess a “twitter post” is more accurately called a “tweet.” Still learning! ;)

Betsy Henry zen-mama.com

I loved SNL and now that my kids are a little older we’re watching it again. It’s fun to have all the inside jokes with them. Now I’ve got to go and do laundry, too. Thanks for the comment by the way!

Some Girl

You’re welcome! :) I’m glad to see you back here!

Shea Beth

Oh I want to try that!!!!!!!!!!

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